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I Respond and Ponder
Saturday, September 23, 2006, 11:20 PM
Okay, so you may or may not, remember this post. My dear friend, whom I've known for a long time (for me), say 11 years, responded with a challenging comment. All people, in whatever type of relationship, don't always see "eye to eye". Although her response did not upset me in any shape or form...I did feel the bunchings of my underwear in the back there...for just a bit. I know her. I hear her speak when she writes. I literally hear her voice. So, I was taken aback by some of her choice of words, but I respect her and love her enough to not respond without a great deal of thought and consideration. It brought to my attention this. (And what follows is not directed at my friend but what I have teased out of some things happening in my life.)
Let me tell you that in communication, you must be crystal clear both in the message you send and the message you receive. AND YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE MESSAGE YOU SEND AND THE MESSAGE YOU RECEIVE.
In all of this and the things at work and in my married life, what it seems to come back to unfailingly is- communication. The second is- giving the benefit of the doubt until effective and deliberate communication can be established.
I think it should be mandatory to have to have communication classes in school, before marriage, before becoming a parent, before becoming the leader of some endeavor or organization and so on.
What kind of world would this place be if we actually learned to communicate and communicate effectively? To share ideas and thoughts in a mature and responsible way? An amazing place I'm sure.
Let me wallow in my naïveté. Let me wish that we could all learn to be patient, compassionate, loving towards each other. To take the time to ask and conversate. To offer the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. To do what's right for the whole and not just the one.
What does that make me? I don't know, I'm sure there's all sorts of perjorative words but I like it. And if I forget to follow my own advice, please offer a gentle reminder. ♥Pam
I'm Pam and Bill.
We are DINKS with DOGS & CATS and chickens and turkeys.
Met on a blind date in October of 1993 and married in August of 1994. We have five dogs and two cats.
We live on about 122 or so acres in Southern Vermont. About 12 acres of pasture and the rest is woodland..